Pretty, it ain’t

For the last 2 weeks, I’ve been sharing my 2 bedroom apartment with my soon to be ex-husband. His apartment will be ready in a week. I share the living room with what seems like 2 tons of boxes delivered 2 days ago. I share my bathroom with 2 cats. I share my futon with my laptop and the occasional snack. And I’m trying very hard to share the best of me with my 2 boys.

All the while, I find myself wanting to document this great, quiet, confident change, this coming of age [though middle it may be] with grace and dignity. I want to tell a tale of great balance and character as I move forward ….but you know, it is real life. It is my life and it is loud and clangy and when it IS quiet, well, it’s the clamy handed, nervous eye twitching kind of quiet. I’m constantly trying to remind myself to “cling not to the things you normally seek for security”. So, instead of buying pretty, shiney things, I just wander and wander for hours upon hours down the aisles of Target telling myself, “nope. no. unuh. don’t need it.” Instead of splurging on Starbucks, I get an empty cup from Panera for less than 2 bucks and fill it with sugars, skim milk and dark roast and act like it tastes just as good. I sip this going down the lanes of Target.

As I wait for said roomate and his belongings to move out, my sons’ schools to start, my school to start, my new church to be found, my weight to be lost, my hair to grow out,  my new “life” to begin, I find that I’m tempted to pick up old bondage and shake it like a package under the Christmas tree. Funny how waiting can make standards drop and dreams fade. 

You know, all of my life I’ve struggled with that desire for change to be “pretty”. It is what is and pretty it ain’t but maybe that’s where grace shines through…knowing it’s strong enough for my knee-knocking growth. Hoping. 🙂

song o hoping
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  1. 1
    Joelle Says:

    Miss you. Muchly. Don’t wait. Just be. Be His.

  2. 2
    cdees Says:

    So ironic – I was just looking back at my first post on this blog from almost exactly a year ago. The last line of it was quoting Meredith who had told me “Be where you are”.
    2 wise women.
    Yes, just be here, be His – new mantra for the day.
    Thanks love and I miss you TOO!

  3. 3
    Tara H Says:

    The first day he leaves, and the kids are in school. Run around naked screaming I am free I am free. Then get your cheaper cup of coffee, stroll the isles of target not buying anything (get dressed first)
    you my friend have just begun your new life. Exciting…
    as I tell Mahkyla make good Choices
    also some wise person on Facebook said.
    Just because something isn’t bad for you, doesn’t mean it is good for you.
    FB is deep. (-:
    get to finding a church. seriously, go. right now.
    miss you.

  4. 4
    cdees Says:

    visited 1 church so far and it was great but there maybe 20 or 30 people there total. AND i was the oldest, i’m sure, besides the parents of the pastor. 38 is the new 60. nice.
    as far as the streaking goes, i just might but again “pretty, it ain’t”. 😉
    miss you too

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